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Comment on Leave Dorries alone! The misogyny against her coming from so-called feminists is utterly despicable by Molly Hughes

Molly Hughes — Mon, 26 Nov 2012 22:18:01 +0000

Yeah she may be an mp but who cares it’s her life she can do what she likes she tried something new praise her for it don’t tell her off I understand what she was trying to do!

Comment on BI BOND, BI BOND by Why Bond will never be Bisexual | Squarise | Film and TV | Articles

Wed, 14 Nov 2012 22:22:18 +0000

[...] had gay encounters in the past, or that his tastes are so hedonistic he’ll fuck anyone. This is the most positive interpretation, although I don’t personally buy it. As outlined above, the history of Bond seems to preclude [...]

Comment on BI BOND, BI BOND by Sarah

Sarah — Wed, 14 Nov 2012 18:41:56 +0000

I don’t think that this scene was about establishing Bond as bisexual. I read a Sunday Times feature with Sam Mendes who said that he *did* originally want to make Bond bisexual, a “he’ll fuck anything” type attitude, but that he ultimately decided for that scene at least that Bond was simply not intimidated at the idea of sex with men. I personally think it makes sense that Bond has has had sex with men – he went to an all-male boarding school and he’s got a very macchiavellian approach to getting the job done. But there’s having sex with the same sex and there’s being bisexual, if you know what I mean.

By either way, I enjoyed that scene and most especially the enthusiasm with which the audience I was sitting in received it. Either way, it is still an amazing step forward for bi visibility, whether Bond is bisexual or not. Sometimes I watch Ace Ventura and remember this scene from the 1990s where he reacts to the discovery that someone he had made out with was previously a man, and wonder whether Jim Carrey feels kinda ashamed now. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_2LjwM3B688

Comment on It’s time to move on the conversations about kink and feminism. by Consent and abuse of power in kink and other sexual communities « Rewriting The Rules

Tue, 23 Oct 2012 08:56:56 +0000

[...] Valentine, L. (2012). It’s time to move on the conversations about kink and feminism. Silicon… Accessed (22nd October 2012) from: http://siliconevalley.org/2012/03/01/its-time-to-move-on-the-conversations-about-kink-and-feminism. [...]

Comment on Should I come out as poly at work? by Out at work? « Assume Benevolence

Out at work? « Assume Benevolence — Tue, 16 Oct 2012 12:07:57 +0000

[...] Written in response to Love is Infinite’s post on coming out at work, and to Silicone Valley’s response. [...]

Comment on The Great Wall Of Vagina – it’s in London, it’s amazing and y’all might enjoy checking it out by P G Robertson

P G Robertson — Fri, 10 Aug 2012 13:29:09 +0000

Is it too picky to point out that there aren’t any vaginas in that exhibition? They’re all vulvas. Probably is too picky. Sorry. Going away now.

Comment on Should I come out as poly at work? by Milo

Milo — Sun, 08 Jul 2012 16:26:23 +0000

Thanks for this, really important! Will try not to complete reiterate whats already been said. To me there’s definitely a distinction between what I would do in my future career and ‘just a job’. Personally, as I want to go into teaching, I would probably feel comfortable coming out as poly as from my experience, teachers are generally very progressive and more accepting (for example, in school some of the teachers I get on best with were the first people I came out to as queer, and were very supportive regarding the shit I got from other students about it, and was also very lucky that I had an openly poly teacher in sixth form) however in my part time retail job being in a VERY rural and reactionary area, I feel I’ve used all my ‘tokens’ (a concept I LOVE btw) simply by being noticeably political (and even sadder, a trade unionist) as well as originally having tried to call people out on homophobia/sexism/racism etc

I think one thing that should be added is to be careful of who you add on social media from work. Personally I’ve always avoided it but have known many people who have had things reported to managers, gossiped about among colleagues etc and if its something as potentially complex as being poly and you’re not comfortable with people making their own assumptions about it then its best to be wary

Thanks again for the article

Comment on More Writing by Is Non-Monogamy Feminist?

Is Non-Monogamy Feminist? — Fri, 06 Jul 2012 10:19:55 +0000

[...] She’s interested in alternative sexualities, battling the mono-hetero-normative paradigm, and decent sex toys. Silicone Valley’s homepage is her sex toy blog, started on tumblr in May 2011. She also writes regularly on practical non-monogamy for Polytical.org, as well as intermittently elsewhere. [...]

Comment on Is non-monogamy feminist? by Is Non-Monogamy Feminist?

Is Non-Monogamy Feminist? — Fri, 06 Jul 2012 10:08:27 +0000

[...] This is a x-post from Ludi Valentine and originally appeared at her blog Silicone Valley on April 21, [...]

Comment on Should I come out as poly at work? by sharonlangridge

sharonlangridge — Wed, 04 Jul 2012 20:22:43 +0000

(Partly cross-posted from my comment on the Love Is Infinite post you linked to…)

I’m out at work (in a medium-sized third-sector organisation), and I was at my last job (in a small, private software firm) too. I’m aware that there’s no legal protection for being poly, but I also know that my colleagues are basically nice people and that they like me, and that they understand or try to understand that polyamory works for me and that both my partners are very important parts of my life.

I don\’t talk about polyamory all the time, any more than I talk about bi activism all the time, or being a Quaker or being vegetarian – and I probably haven\’t used the word \’polyamory\’ more than once or twice – I just talk about my life in the way my colleagues talk about theirs, and if they ask me questions about how any of it works I answer them honestly

I know I’m lucky that I’ve found a job where there’s community spirit and where my colleagues care about each other’s wellbeing. In that situation, I believe that being open about what and who is important in my life gives me an easier ride and more protection than trying to keep my relationships secret.

Frankly, if I found myself in a job where I couldn\’t be myself and where the 9-5 was just paying for the \’real life\’ in the evenings and at weekends, I\’d be looking very hard for another job. I want my real life to be happening all the time.